I am now convinced that there is no afterlife and as such am scared beepless of dying!
This is the only drawback to my Atheism. Is there any way of coming to terms with this as I am wasting valuable time on this precious planet worrying about leaving it!!
I used to do a lot of rock climbing, and when I was just starting out I remember asking the guy who was teaching me if he ever thought about falling. And he said "No, I'm usually too busy thinking about holding on."
The same goes for thinking about dying. I know it's easier said than done, but by spending the time to think about it logically you do what no religious person ever does. They never actually deal with the question because they think that that is already covered for them. I'm convinced that it is the single greatest reason why most people believe what they believe. It's the gut wrenching fear of death and the promise to survive it that keeps bums on pews.
Heaven, once you give it any thought whatsoever is the epitome of the saying "If it sounds too good to be true then it probably is.": It's a perfect place. The weather is always perfect. You have your own mansion. All your family and friends are there. There is no hate, fear, anger, sadness, jealousy, depression etc. You are always happy. You are never tired. You are never hungry or thirsty. You are never late. You never sweat or shiver. You never get sick. You miss nothing, want for nothing, lose nothing. You are never excluded, ignored, overlooked, cheated, bullied, teased or tormented.
Say you love to play chess. You can't do that in Heaven, because neither player can lose. So there goes sport. There can be no sport in Heaven unless loosing doesn't bother you. And if loosing doesn't bother you then winning can't interest you. That's not going to sit right with sport lovers.
No sex in heaven, as everybody loves everybody equally. And if we're all at it, when do we get round to praising God eternally? No relationships in Heaven. No secrets in Heaven...
The very notion that Heaven is perfection instantly negates the concept.
So don't waste time worrying about there being no afterlife. When you stopped believing in Santa Claus you didn't carry on worrying about being naughty and not getting presents from Santa Claus. There's nothing to worry about. And nothing
to worry about. You'll be no more upset about being dead 200 years from now than you were 200 years ago. (That's one of my favourite atheist memes)
But if you're looking for some comfort, I'll take it that your real fear is of dying, rather than death. For what it's worth I'll expose myself a little here and share this with you: 12 years ago, almost to the day, I had a near death experience. I died for somewhere in the region of a minute. I did not
have a religious experience. I had been an atheist for over 20 years at that time and I explained it to myself in perfectly logical and biological terms. It is virtually impossible for me to explain what my perception was, but I can tell you that this forum's reaction to that statement holds way more fear for me than death ever will again. And that doesn't scare me at all!